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From 4 ways People Affect us

"I think anytime you can affect people in general, in a positive way, then you're a lucky individual"

Sam Elliott

We are always surrounded by people the day and night. Some people stay with us from dawn to late at night, those are our family and roommates. Some people are around us during the day and evening time they are our friends and others. Some other people are connected to us through the phone like YouTube, Facebook, or other social media.

Those peoples affect us directly or indirectly. Some people put a direct effect on us are whom we meet daily like our family, friends, and colleagues. The reason being we spent a lot of time with them. we communicate with others and listen to them, but sometimes they don’t want to listen to us.

Some people affect us indirectly, with whom we may never meet in our life like YouTubers, social media, and actors from movies. They put a lot of effect on us. These effects are invisible we can’t see them. they are only visible when we have to face the consequences of our actions. When we to do a lot of work in a short time because we spent so much time in those activities.

WHY DO PEOPLE AFFECT US?

Peoples affects us whether we want it or not. They will continue doing their work until we think about our goals, our family, and our money. If we continue doing for others they will not give us back what we spent on them. people keep thinking they fooling you and making fun of you in front of others.

1. Their thoughts and vibes affect us

When we start talking to them daily, our minds start thinking this is a good person. We should stay connected to them and suddenly we start feeling good vibes from them. on the other side, we talked to some other people and our minds started thinking this is not a good person, and suddenly we start feeling bad vibes.

Thoughts are one of the essential effects that people do on us. We also see people with the same thoughts always together doesn’t matter whether they are brothers, friends, etc. when we talk we exchange our thoughts.

When a friend of ours starts sitting near us and sharing the same thought, again and again, day and night. We listen to them because we concern for them but at a point that arrives, we also start thing the same negative thoughts. When the same thing happens someone told to positive things daily, and we also start thinking positively.

“Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.” Unknown

2. Our and their Expectations

When we are associated with the people then we build some expectations. This person will help me in every situation, some help me with money, some help me in other matters, and some are there they will not help me. This expectation affects us the most because in a difficult situation we went to our friend and he/she denied helping us. This denial simply affects us and next time we will hesitate to ask for help.

This is our expectation if we tell a secret to others and think about they will not tell to anybody. We trust them because they are our friends and family. Blind trust is harmful to everyone. When a person came to us and ask to us why we said that? And suddenly you thought how this person know this thing. We have no answer for this and we talk about the stuff which is not suitable for this situation. Next time we will not trust other people easily.

If we help someone and thought this person will think good about us. We help others because it’s our nature to whoever comes to us for help. We are always ready to help them. they sit and keep talking we sacrifice our work for them because we thought they need help and support. But when those people blame us for everything. that happens wrong to them we are the reason behind that. We even don’t know what is the situation. We tell them to help themselves but they say you are not helping me. How could anyone who wants to help you do wrong? That people’s thoughts no one can change that.

When we are with friends there is someone always ready to judge people whether they know them or not. They are not thinking about what they did to others. They only judge us on our thought, our appearance, and what they don’t like in us. They are not our friends or well-wisher. We can lift a mountain, but when we are alone because there is no one there to judge us. This kind of negative person affects us most. Please keep away from this kind of judgmental person.

Some will pull your legs they don’t want to be successful in your life. They can’t do much in their life so they start telling to others this work ant be done. Some person thinks like same and never tried to get there. We can easily run for long distances when someone says it can’t be done. It feels difficult to do.

3. Their Behavior

The behavior of people around us also affects us. People whom we like when suddenly change their behavior which affects our mental health. One day before he/she was so nice and all of sudden they behaving like strangers to them. this behavior change some people can tolerate and some are not.

All students should be equal in the eyes of the teacher. But some teachers do a favor to some students, which are relative to them. They always get good marks, and some intelligent students don’t even come close to their marks. This type of behavior affects the students most. They work hard for the marks, but they could not get good marks.

4. Their words

Words have vanished into the air, creating history when they wrote in the documents, and evidence when we have to prove ourselves. These words affect all the people around us. Right words in the wrong situation generate big chaos, and wrong words in the right situations also do the same. We have to use our words wisely because someone’s life depends on our words. Speak the truth to them and hope they then took it the right way, otherwise, we will lose our friends.

Note: this world is full of people, and also someone around us. We are all unique in our thoughts and approach. Some do the same work in 5 days and some in 2 days. If we keep listing their negative thoughts, we will not get what we want. Simply say this line to them “We can do this and We will do this”.